mummy reached 26 years old today

UhH..terharunya...
Arini member2 ofis mumy buat surprise...
x sangka plak diorang nak celebrate bday mumy..siap papa pun bersubahat skali..but papa promise to mumy to celebrate mlm ni plak..uh uh uh.....selamat makan dan menggemukkan diri ok...
esok ada appointment nak cek gula lagi ni...
huhu...aneway..tq to all mumy fren(ofismate) n papa ..sayang kamu semua..moga persahabatan kita sentiasa dipelihara allah...
yang join td  aunty dayah,yani,akma,sarah,farah,kak maz,deck,  uncle mijie,joe ..tq u all...terbaikla...ada kek ada kfc n air soya lagi...

next week 10-25 June mumy kne g induksi

moga Allah memberi kekuatan buat kita berdua ye baby...
baby...friday ni dah 28 weeks..
wah cepatnye mase berlalu...
papa ngan mumy x sabar nak tgk baby tau...
last nite papa sembang ngan baby ape?
huhu...mcm excited nk jmpa papa je...papa cakap baby kick papa...mane ade kan..
papa..baby just to show her(??her ke he..oooo we still confuse..just wait) luv to u,,,,.

ok...that all for today...

What do we expect from our children? Do we expect them to be robots where we will always hold the remote? Are they clones to have all behave and react in the same way? NO!!! They have their own individual qualities…own interests…own interpretations of things happening. All that we do will have an impact on them and when they mature, they’ll evaluate all these. How to nurture them in the best way then?
I got these tips which is beneficial for all of us and it’s definitely worth to share with all of you. Read it together with your spouse so that you’ll reap the benefits and apply it. InsyaAllah…together we strive in this path…


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"Don’t touch those!" the father commands as his child plays with the dishes on a shelf at his host’s house. A few seconds later, the father looks up from his conversation with his host, and his child is still playing with the dishes. "I told you not to touch those!" the child’s father repeats. A few seconds later, the father looks up and sees his child still playing with the dishes. The father says nothing and continues his conversation with the host.

It happens all the time. Children are given orders, and when they don’t obey, the parent simply goes back to his conversation and forgets.

What should parents do in this situation? Some parents would say that we should stop the child, others that we should punish him, and others that he is "just a child," and we should not expect too much from him.

As Muslim parents, we have an obligation to bring up our children in the best manner—to teach them right from wrong and to show them what we and society expect from them.

Those who give opinions on this matter usually use the Quran or hadith to support their positions, and it may be difficult to establish, without a doubt, who is more correct. However, as parents, we either have to find the correct method to teach and discipline our children, or we at least have to come up with a valid method for teaching and disciplining our children. Definitely, we should not just "figure it out as we go" — one time using this method and another time that one.

The following principles should be useful in establishing a childrearing method which is not too extreme.

1) Start early
Although many parents believe that very small children are too young to understand, their early years are probably the most important opportunity for parents to start them in the right direction. Once good patterns are established, they will be easy to maintain. Once bad patterns are established, they will be difficult to change.

2) Have your Emotions under Control while Instructing Children
Don’t discipline your child because you are angry with him, but rather because you want to teach him. Motive is important here. As a Muslim parent, your motive should be to help your child.

3) Present should Present a United Front
Parents should discuss their strategy for training and disciplining their children and agree to work together as a team. If children realize that one parent is strict and the other is easy, they will play the parents against each other. When the strict parent stops them from doing something, they will go ask the easy parent for permission. Both parents need to tell the child the same thing. If parents sometimes disagree on how to discipline the child, they should discuss it privately, not in front of the children.

4) Be consistent
Most experts on children agree that parents should be consistent. Constantly changing the rules and expectations will only confuse your child. If you stop him from writing on the walls today, and you allow him to write on the walls tomorrow, he will not understand when you get angry the next time he writes on the walls. If you inconsistently apply the rules, he will also test you at times to see whether you are going to be tough this time or easy. If, however, he knows from experience that you always stop him the first time, he will quickly learn it does no good to try to get away with something. Although consistency is essential, it does not mean that parents cannot change their minds about the rules. If you do change the rules, however, you must inform your child in advance so that he will know what to expect. This failure to be consistent is at the root of many parents’ inability to control their children.

5) Never lie to your children
If you lie to them "every now and then," they may not believe you when you tell them the truth. This also applies to those situations when you tell your child to stop doing something, or you will put him in his room, spank him, or take away his toys. If you make that kind of a threat, you must stick with it. Otherwise, you have lied, and your child will not know when you are serious and when you are not. He will then be forced to test you again and again to see.

6) Don’t reward crying
If children realize that everytime they cry, they get what they want, crying will become like money for them. Everytime they want something, they will cry. On the other hand, if you teach them that crying doesn’t get them anything, they will stop crying for things. Let them cry and cry and cry, but don’t give in. In the beginning, it will be difficult, but be patient. Once they learn the lesson and stop crying for everything, you will be happy that you were firm. You can either listen to crying for a few days or for the rest of your life. It’s your choice.

7) Teach your child to apologize when he does something wrong
This is important so that he will learn what is expected of him from others and from Allah (SWT). If he does something wrong, he should ask forgiveness from Allah (SWT) and apologize to any people who were hurt by his words or actions. This will be useful in developing his conscience.

8) Accept Child’s Apology
Be quick to excuse your child when he apologizes and shows that he is sorry for his disobedience or bad actions. When we do wrong, we seek forgiveness from Allah (SWT) and want to be excused. Likewise, we should excuse others. This will develop in your child a sense of mercy and prepare him for an understanding of the forgiveness of Allah (SWT). Always make it clear to the child that you love him, especially after he has been in trouble and apologized. Let him understand that no bad feelings remain.

9) Apologize For Your Mistakes
Don’t be too proud to apologize to your child when you make mistakes. This will establish in him a belief in your sense of justice and prevent him from viewing you as nothing but a tyrant.

10) Teach Islam From an Early Age
Teach your child from an early age about Allah, the Prophets, the Sahaba, and the great heroes of Islam. If we develop in them a love for Islam and provide them with righteous examples for their heroes, they will be much less likely to go astray. A person wants to be like his heroes. If he admires Prophet Muhammad, Abu Bakr, and Ali, he will try to follow their example. If he admires a rock star or a gang leader, he will want to be like them. If we inspire our children with good examples, when they are tempted to do wrong, they will, InshaAllah, remember these examples and remain steadfast.

11) Instruct in Good Morals
Teach your child good morals and good manners. An excellent book for this is Islamic Tahdhib and Akhlaq: Theory and Practice, by B. Aisha Lemu.

12) Discipline Your Child
Discipline should not become the domain of one parent. Mothers and fathers should both participate in the disciplining of their children. Although mothers often threaten their children by telling them that they will get into trouble when their father gets home, this method is not very useful for three reasons. First, discipline should be carried out immediately after the disobedience occurs so that the child will connect the disobedience with its consequences. If parents wait until later, the child may have forgotten why he got into trouble, and feel that the parents are not justified in disciplining him.

Second, sometimes the child must be stopped immediately, and the mother cannot wait until the father gets home. The child must be taught to respond immediately to her commands as well as his father’s. Third, making one parent responsible for disciplining the child may turn that parent into the "bad guy" in the child’s eyes. The child should recognize that both parents agree on their methods of disciplining him. Although the degree to which various parents use them will vary, the following five methods might be used for disciplining your children.

(Source: http://www.soundvision.com/info/parenting/parent.12%20tips.asp)

Mata siapa yang tidak pernah menangis

Pada setiap Jumaat, selepas selesai menunaikan solat Jumaat, seorang Imam
dan anaknya yang berumur 7 tahun akan berjalan menyusuri jalan di kota itu
dan menyebarkan risalah bertajuk "Jalan-jalan Syurga" dan beberapa karya
Islamik yang lain.

Pada satu Jumaat yang indah, pada ketika Imam dan anaknya itu hendak keluar
seperti biasa meghulurkan risalah-risalah Islam itu, hari itu menjadi amat
dingin dan hujan mulai turun.

Anak kecil itu mula membetulkan jubahnya yang masih kering dan panas dan
seraya berkata "Ayah! Saya dah bersedia"

Ayahnya terkejut dan berkata "Bersedia untuk apa?". "Ayah bukankah ini
masanya kita akan keluar menyampaikan risalah Allah"

"Anakku! Bukankah sejuk keadaan di luar tu dan hujan juga agak lebat"

"Ayah bukankah masih ada manusia yang akan masuk neraka walaupun ketika
hujan turun"

Ayahnya menambah "Ayah tidak bersedia hendak keluar dalam keadaan cuaca
sebegini"

Dengan merintih anaknya merayu "Benarkan saya pergi ayah?"

Ayahnya berasa agak ragu-ragu namun menyerahkan risalah-risalah itu kepada
anaknya "Pergilah nak dan berhati-hatilah. Allah bersama-sama kamu!"

"Terima kasih Ayah" Dengan wajah bersinar-sinar anaknya itu pergi meredah
hujan dan susuk tubuh kecil itu hilang dalam kelebatan hujan itu.

Anak kecil itu pun menyerahkan risalah-risalah tersebut kepada sesiapa pun
yang dijumpainya. Begitu juga dia akan mengetuk setiap rumah dan memberikan
risalah itu kepada penghuninya.

Setelah dua jam, hanya tinggal satu saja risalah "Jalan-jalan Syurga" ada
pada tangannya. DIa berasakan tanggungjawabnya tidak akan selesai jika masih
ada risalah di tangannya. Dia berpusing-pusing ke sana dan ke mari mencari
siapa yang akan diserahkan risalah terakhirnya itu namun gagal.

Akhirnya dia ternampak satu rumah yang agak terperosok di jalan itu dan mula
mengatur langkah menghampiri rumah itu. Apabila sampai sahaja anak itu di
rumah itu, lantas ditekannya loceng rumah itu sekali. Ditunggunya sebentar
dan ditekan sekali lagi namun tiada jawapan. Diketuk pula pintu itu namun
sekali lagi tiada jawapan. Ada sesuatu yang memegangnya daripada pergi,
mungkin rumah inilah harapannya agar risalah ini diserahkan. Dia mengambil
keputusan menekan loceng sekali lagi. Akhirnya pintu rumah itu dibuka.

Berdiri di depan pintu adalah seorang perempuan dalam lingkungan 50an.
Mukanya suram dan sedih. "Nak, apa yang makcik boleh bantu?"

Wajahnya bersinar-sinar seolah-olah malaikat yang turun dari langit.
"Makcik, maaf saya mengganggu, saya hanya ingin menyatakan yang ALLAH amat
sayangkan makcik dan sentiasa memelihara makcik. Saya datang ini hanya
hendak menyerahkan risalah akhir ini dan makcik adalah orang yang paling
bertuah". Dia senyum dan tunduk hormat sebelum melangkah pergi.

"Terima kasih nak dan Tuhan akan melindungi kamu" dalam nada yang lembut

Minggu berikutnya sebelum waktu solat Jumaat bermula, seperti biasa Imam
memberikan ceramahnya. Sebelum selesai dia bertanya "Ada sesiapa nak
menyatakan sesuatu"

Tiba-tiba sekujur tubuh bangun dengan perlahan dan berdiri. Dia adalah
perempuan separuh umur itu. "Saya rasa tiada sesiapa dalam perhimpunan ini
yang kenal saya. Saya tak pernah hadir ke majlis ini walaupun sekali. Untuk
pengetahuan anda, sebelum Jumaat minggu lepas saya bukan seorang Muslim.
Suami saya meninggal beberapa tahun lepas dan meninggalkan saya keseorangan
dalam dunia ini" Air mata mulai bergenang di kelopak matanya.

"Pada Jumaat minggu lepas saya mengambil keputusan untuk membunuh diri. Jadi
saya ambil kerusi dan tali. Saya letakkan kerusi di atas tangga menghadap
anak tangga menuruni. Saya ikat hujung tali di galang atas dan hujung satu
lagi diketatkan di leher. Apabila tiba saat saya untuk terjun, tiba-tiba
loceng rumah saya berbunyi. Saya tunggu sebentar, pada anggapan saya, siapa
pun yang menekan itu akan pergi jika tidak dijawab. Kemudian ia berbunyi
lagi. Kemudian saya mendengar ketukan dan loceng ditekan sekali lagi".

"Saya bertanya sekali lagi. Belum pernah pun ada orang yang tekan loceng ini
setelah sekian lama. Lantas saya melonggarkan tali di leher dan terus pergi
ke pintu"

"Seumur hidup saya belum pernah saya melihat anak yang comel itu.
Senyumannya benar-benar ikhlas dan suaranya seperti malaikat". "Makcik, maaf
saya mengganggu, saya hanya ingin menyatakan yang ALLAH amat sayangkan
makcik dan sentiasa memelihara makcik" itulah kata-kata yang paling indah
yang saya dengar".

"Saya melihatnya pergi kembali menyusuri hujan. Saya kemudian menutup pintu
dan terus baca risalah itu setiap muka surat. Akhirnya kerusi dan tali yang
hampir-hampir menyentap nyawa saya diletakkan semula ditempat asal mereka.
Aku tak perlukan itu lagi".

"Lihatlah, sekarang saya sudah menjadi seorang yang bahagia, yang menjadi
hamba kepada Tuhan yang satu ALLAH. Di belakang risalah terdapat alamat ini
dan itulah sebabnya saya di sini hari ini. Jika tidak disebabkan malaikat
kecil yang datang pada hari itu tentunya roh saya ini akan berada
selama-lamanya di dalam neraka"

Tiada satu pun anak mata di masjid itu yang masih kering. Ramai pula yang
berteriak dan bertakbir ALLAHUAKBAR!

Imam lantas turun dengan pantas dari mimbar lantas terus memeluk anaknya
yang berada di kaki mimbar dan menangis sesungguh-sungguh hatinya.

Jumaat ini dikira Jumaat yang paling indah dalam hidupnya. Tiada anugerah
yang amat besar dari apa yang dia ada pada hari ini. Iaitu anugerah yang
sekarang berada di dalam pelukannya Seorang anak yang seumpama malaikat.

Biarkanlah air mata itu menitis. Air mata itu anugerah ALLAH kepada
makhlukNya yang penyayang

Panjangkanlah risalah ini. Ingat ALLAH sentiasa menyayangi dan memelihara
kamu!

TAKBIR!! ALLAHUAKBAR!

Wassallam

Im sick of this..

Bayi tiga bulan maut tercekik susu
Oleh Johan Afandi
johan@bharian.com.my
2010/05/20

NOOR SARIMA menunjukkan gambar Aqil Adam yang meninggal dunia akibat tercekik susu di pusat jagaan, semalam.

Doktor sahkan mangsa alami pendarahan otak

JOHOR BAHRU: Seorang ibu tidak menyangka perasaan berat hati dan tangisan anak sulung berusia tiga tahun ketika dihantar ke pusat jagaan kanak-kanak di Taman Impian Emas di sini, petanda beliau kehilangan bayi yang juga anak bongsunya berusia tiga bulan selepas dipercayai mati akibat tersedak susu.

Lebih menyedihkan Noor Sarima Ruslan, 28, bayinya, Aqil Adam Azrul sempat dua kali bernafas ketika dalam perjalanan ke klinik berhampiran pusat jagaan berkenaan, walaupun sebelum itu dia dimaklumkan sudah tidak bernafas.
Noor Sarima ketika ditemui Berita Harian di rumahnya, berkata Isnin lalu, anak sulungnya, Amirul Adam menangis ketika dihantar ke pusat jagaan itu pada sebelah pagi seperti baru pertama kali berada di situ tetapi beliau membuang segala prasangka buruk dan menganggapnya perkara biasa.
Sangkaan itu menjadi kenyataan apabila menerima panggilan daripada pengasuh kira-kira jam 2 petang sebelum bergegas ke sana.

“Ketika sampai, saya dapati Aqil Adam dalam keadaan lemah manakala muka dan bibirnya pucat, sebelum saya membawanya ke klinik berhampiran.

“Doktor kemudian memberikan bantuan pernafasan, selepas lebih 10 minit, beliau menyatakan bayi saya tidak mempunyai harapan untuk hidup berikutan lewat dihantar untuk mendapatkan rawatan,” katanya.

Katanya, beliau diberitahu seorang penjaga di situ kejadian berpunca akibat anaknya dihempap bayi lain di pusat jagaan berkenaan.
“Seorang lagi penjaga mendakwa dia meninggal anak saya untuk membuat susu sebelum datang semula dan mendapati bayi saya tidak lagi bernafas. Saya tidak tahu mana yang betul... laporan bedah siasat hospital pula menyatakan anak saya meninggal dunia akibat pendarahan dalam otak, “ katanya.

Sementara itu, suami Noor Sarima, Azrul Nuraizam Hamzah, 29, berkata beliau tidak akan lagi menghantar anaknya ke mana-mana pusat jagaan selepas ini, kerana trauma dengan kejadian yang menimpa.

“Apa yang saya kesalkan ialah tindakan pusat jagaan yang lewat memaklumkan kami berhubung kejadian serta tidak menghantar Aqil untuk mendapatkan rawatan segera selepas tidak sedarkan diri akibat dihempap bayi lain, ” katanya.


papa..mumy risau kan keselamatan baby nnti..Ya allah , engkau peliharalah anak kami dari segala malapetaka..Amin.

entry boring

aduh,..boringnye arini...tak macam ari2 lain..nape ek..mumy mula bfikir2 lunch nak makan apa dah...skang br kul 11.30 lambat lagi..tp mumy dah laparla...
em.pagi td dah bfast 2sponn nestum with milk..cukup ke ek..im sorry baby if ure hungry too...jap lagi mumy g makan ek..arini mumy kna amik sayo byak n ikan bsar ok...
papa baby kursus lagi arini...kita doa sama2 papa bjaya dalam apa je yang dia buat ok..
papa..jgn lupa tau mgu ni kita g knduri umah mumy member mumy...sabtu ni tau papa...
baby..hear it...( i want to bf u how much n how long u want- God help me..amin)

yeay...hb mumy dah naik .......

arini kan mumy g checkup...berat naik 2kg within 2weeks..nurse cakap sepatutnya 1kg je..tp dia x bisingla...dia siap calet tgn mumy sbb berjaya menaikkan hb yg 8.lebih(moderate anemia) kpd 11.6..cayalah mumy..balik mumy naik taxi sbb papa kursus lagi..smp stesen lrt terus beli nasi lemak n sambal daging...smp ofis terus mamam...
ade keje2 bos mumy mtak.. terus setle dulu..asal tgan mumy ni lenguh ye..ooo.td kna injection att (anti tetanus)..kejap je ni..nt baikla..ok mumy nak naik atas..mumy oder ice sundae mcflurry n kentang...

xoxo from mumy n papa

tired..oohh..

smlm mumy n papa br smp dr kmpung..uhh penatnye..rs malas nk datang keje arini..kesian papa beli durian kat mama...n tahan bau durian smp demam n muntah2 smlm..bwk dr lenggong smp kl durian tu..feninla...sorii papa..im not meant it..i thought u buy bcoz of ure craving the durians too...
uhh..tharu dgr cite abg rifdee xnak balik ikut mama dia..nk duk ngan wan..smp wan tpaksa ke kulim n tgu dia tdo br balik umah...adu rifdee sudah pandai sedih2 ye kamu...jangan kan rifdee,, omaknye n cikjah pon sedih bile nk tgal wan sosorang kan..

sakitnye pala mumy ni...
xpe tahan la ..cikit je..its the wellness of pregnant ok...not sick

ok..mumy nak solat..arini makcik kne amik kat lrt..papa kursus abih lambat la plak..
(mumy bukan ape...makcik kata mumy berat la, risau dia bwk mumy ni..huhu..esok checkup
harap2 hb mumy menaik n berat nurse x complain ok

i luv u baby...papa also luv u too...muah..assalamualaikum